discover within the mess (sols)

Airplanes are the current rage around the Ayres’ house.


The material is in constant flux.
The ideas revised.
The testing constant.
The passion permeable.

They sent cardboard and duct tape home with Noah. He brought his design the next morning. (Noah is a high school senior and hangs out with the kids in the mornings before school.)

I’m stepping over airplanes while I cook dinner. I’m picking them out of my front shrubs. I’m closing the sliding door to the balcony five hundred and eighteen times each evening because they are too excited to measure the flight path and forget to pull it closed. My parking spot in the garage has become littered with duct tape and scissors and rulers and plans that resemble blueprints designed by a seven and eight year old.
If I’m ugly honest, there’s a part of me that just wants to be rid of the mess.
But the richest living happens in the mess.
This kind of passion isn’t ignited by adults (or babysitters) who care too much about tidiness. This creativity isn’t spurred by sitting at the table and cleaning up each mess before the test, before the revision. This engagement doesn’t exist if neatness is more important than pressing through failures.

So I chose to live in the mess of Airplane Insanity (which is what we’ve come to term this phase). Because I know it is in the mess that good stuff happens. It’s true for my own living and exploring and creating. So I’m giving them space to discover within the mess.

(And a plastic tote… so they can also learn to contain the mess in order to provide space for more ideas to grow without the clutter.)

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  1. I love the way you recognize what is important as your kids develop their interests and passions. You nurture them in so many ways. When they are adults they will look back, laugh, and say,”Remember when we ….(fill in the blank)?” Passion grows in your home.

  2. And, one of these days, there won't be any airplane insanity. There won't be books strewn throughout the house. No mess, no arguments, no morning hugs, no kisses goodnight. Enjoy the mess. You'll live in a clean house soon enough. Hugs to you all

  3. I think the correct term for “ugly honest” is “write unapologetically.” 🙂 I love that you embrace the imperfect, even when it is not your nature to do so. It sure nurtures a whole lot of good when you do!