[CELEBRATE This Week 240]
I was talking about blogging with Pernille and asked, “Do you set your posts ahead of time?”
“Nope,” she said. “It’s all first draft writing. Whatever is on my mind.” She went on to talk about how if she thinks too hard, then her head gets in the way and the writing doesn’t happen. “Blogging has always been an act of reflection,” she said.
I nodded because I agreed, but also because I realized the profound truth. It is true for me, too. Blogging has always been an act of reflection. Lately, though, I think my head has been in the way.
What if I strip away all of the shoulds and just go back to my blogging roots of opening a post box and stacking some words? What would I write if I just stopped thinking?
Giving ourselves grace might be the bravest thing humans can do.
When stress strikes, sometimes it takes maneuvering who we want to be for who we need to be. We can’t control the circumstances in our lives. Grace means I accept the person I am during the unraveling circumstances I don’t want.
This takes courage.
We know we can’t control the circumstances. I can pretend to be okay with this fact until the path becomes gnarled and my footing isn’t sure. One step can land with a swoop that carries me into a rushing river. Life tosses me from bank to bank, spins me by the current, and ransacks the way things are supposed to go. Things unravel more and a fire sets in, consuming everything I’ve ever known and burns down the dream of how I hoped things would be.
Today I was reminded of the importance of reflection. I was reminded that it’s okay to think deeply and feel strongly. It’s okay to lean into the circumstances we would rather not face.
Sometimes circumstances force a new normal.
During these times, humans need excessive grace. Just because we want to shake things off and go back to normal, doesn’t mean it is possible.
It takes time to find and accept a new normal.
It takes grace to find and accept a new normal.
Grace means I give myself a break for not mailing the letters or snapping the green beans or writing the next chapter. Grace means I’m satisfied with holding tight to my joy and grateful for my self-control.
Every good story has dark twists. There’s no reason I should be exempt. I’m going to celebrate grace in the unraveling. Grace guarantees finding light in the dark forest; traveling rough waters without drowning; and surviving a fire without burning.