2019: Steph Timeline

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  1. First I sit quietly, prayerfully next to you after reading with these words, just acknowledging them. Next I whisper “I am so sorry.”
    I am glad you wrote it, too.

  2. I remember some of what you wrote, wishing it weren’t so, knowing that you cared so much and that it must have sucked all the energy from you and Andy and the others. And I hope that writing will help you cement the truth of what happened rather than some ‘truth’ Stephanie will try to tell you some day, sad to write. Big hugs for you in doing this hard thing, Ruth.

    • I’m grateful for your insights. Yes, so much energy was drained. For the first four months of 2019, I spent a long time sitting, just being still. I slept a lot, too. I was so bone-weary.

  3. Stories do matter. Stephanie’s stories matters. And the stories make up who we are, deep inside, whether we want to believe it or not. Sometimes I believe quiet equates to “all is good.” But that’s not always the case, now is it after reading about 2019 (redacted)? I will pray for Stephanie’s new home placement. And for your family and home too. As challenging as this writing is … I encourage you to continue on with the magic of your words. Happy writing, Ruth. Happy writing.

    • Thanks for the encouragement. So much of what Andy & I consider is “how will Steph feel when she one day comes upon these words? How will our other kids feel if they read it?” Story carries much power, especially the stories parents tell of their children. I hope my writing will always carry a bit of magic. 🤍

  4. Stories do matter. Stephanie’s stories matters. And the stories make up who we are, deep inside, whether we want to believe it or not. Sometimes I believe quiet equates to “all is good.” But that’s not always the case, now is it after reading about 2019 (redacted)? I will pray for Stephanie’s new home placement. And for your family and home too. As challenging as this writing is … I encourage you to continue on with the magic of your words. Happy writing, Ruth. Happy writing.

  5. Oh, my heart hurts for you, for your family, for Stephanie and this mighty struggle with mental illness. Praying for God’s love and blessings on you and yours.

  6. Ruth. . . your writing always brings a connection or tear or prayer for you to continue. I have had similar situations with students at school. We cry for help and no ones listen. The authorities tell us they will look into it or the situation is not bad enough. I worry about children that are in homes during the pandemic shut down that are unsafe. Please keep writing as much and as often as you want to share. I promise you are touching lives. Prayers for all the children that need help.

  7. So open and tough. Hard to read, harder to live. But this is what we always strive for- honesty even when it’s easier to move away, soften the blow, turn in the direction of fiction.
    Thanks for sharing this and drawing me back into the community of writers and readers…
    Bonnie

  8. I am always in awe of your courage to write about the hard. It has taught me to see beyond the obvious, to think-look into what I cannot see with my students. Thankful you are able to culminate thoughts of the daily hard. Hugs my friend!

  9. I am always in awe of your ability to write through the hard—and I’m sorry I haven’t been present when you have. We all know everyone’s stories matter, I am so happy you will be able to share with us. Love to you all and lots of virtual hugs.

  10. This is so meaningful, especially to foster/adoptive parents who have walked in any similar footsteps on their journey. My prayers join yours for rekindled hope. I am drawn to the closing lines by the photo of Stephanie… if the victory doesn’t happen this side of heaven… and it brings to mind a favorite song…Home Free. In the chorus it says “at the ultimate healing we will be home free.”
    https://youtu.be/G6l1kpJ0x5k